Sunday, June 17, 2012

How To Get Her Back – A Few Simple Tips

Since you’re reading this, it’s pretty safe to assume you were in a relationship that has recently ended in a break up. I bet you feel just awful right about now. The feelings of loss, confusion, anger, and guilt have all come around to make life pretty miserable. And yet, deep in your heart, you are wondering how to get her back.

No relationship is ever perfect. Mainly because people are involved! When you have two people each with their own idea of how things should be…well, you are gonna have conflict. It’s a given.  Now that you realize how much you want to get her back, you need a game plan to make it happen.

First of all, you need to realize that at least 90% of relationships could be fixed if people were willing to put forth some effort. I think we give up too easily at times. Are you willing to do whatever it takes to get your girl back? Even though at times it’s going to be hard?  Great!

Tips On How To Get Her Back

It may be tedious and sometimes painful, but you are going to have to take a long hard look back at your relationship and uncover what REALLY went wrong. This is where you need to be careful. The things you easily see on the surface are not always the problem. They are symptoms of the real issue. As an example, you might think that you two broke up because you were fighting all the time. Arguments are rarely the real cause of a break up. Was one of you jealous? or maybe controlling? Then that was the cause of the arguments. Don’t be afraid to dig deep and get at the root of the issues.

Once you understand what the root issues were in the relationship you can start to work on finding answers to the problems. Do you see places where you could have been a better boyfriend? Be brutally honest here! All of us have things we could improve about ourselves. This is a win/win for you anyway you look at it. Why? Even if you don’t get back with your ex girlfriend you are a better person.

Realize that you don’t have any control over whatever shortcomings your ex may have. You can’t change her, she will have to make those adjustments herself. Also realize that she may not see a need to change. If this is the case, you will have to be prepared to either overlook her shortcomings, or decide to walk away if she isn’t willing to try.

Now that you have things straight in your head and you have made any adjustments to your attitude or behaviors it’s time to talk with your ex. The first goal should be to set up a time to meet face to face. This is NOT a date, so be sure you don’t treat it like one. Be polite when you call, and don’t force the issue. If you want to get your ex girl back it is very important to be respectful while you talk. The conversation is not about proving who was right and who was wrong. It is about fixing things so that you can have a happy future together. If you can stick to that, you will be well on your way to get her back in your life.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

How To Recognize The Signs A Marriage Is In Trouble

How do you recognize the signs a marriage is in trouble? It may be difficult to see them because they start out small and grow over time. Other times we don’t notice them because we don’t want to. Ignoring the signs a marriage is in trouble will not help you, so prepare yourself and take care of the problem while it is still small.

Since over half of all marriages in end divorce, could it be people don’t know how to see the signs a marriage is in trouble? Or maybe it’s just that we see problems in other people’s lives more easily than we see issues in our own lives?

Signs A Marriage Is In Trouble

Selfishness – Being married and in love with someone should mean that you want only the best for them. To accomplish this you have to put their needs first a majority of the time. If you do this for them and they do it for you in return, then everyone’s happy. If only one person’s needs get met, resentment can build up over time.

Lack of Communication – Remember when you used to talk about anything and everything? Now you get very little or no communication from your spouse. This might be a sign your marriage is in trouble. Honest communication on a regular basis is important to all relationships, so don’t let this slide.

Wrong Priorities –Your relationship with your spouse needs to be your top priority. Other important things, such as your kids, your extended family, and your job need your attention, too. If your relationship isn’t solid, where will that leave your family? Is your spouse still your best friend? If not, your marriage could easily fail.

Lack of Intimacy –Sometimes couples don’t schedule time to be alone and then find themselves with no sex life and none of the little intimacies that make life special. It doesn’t have to be that way. Make it a priority to schedule time for just the two of you regularly.

Now you are aware of some of the signs a marriage is in trouble. There are more, I’m sure. The important thing is to guard your marriage against these problem areas and take action if any of them rear their ugly heads.

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Love Relationship Advice -Where Can You Find Reliable Love Relationship Advice

It seems you can find love relationship advice anywhere these days. Everywhere you look, whether it’s TV or on the internet, there are the self-styled relationship ‘gurus’ giving you advice on how to have a happy and successful relationship. The problem is that many of these people don’t really know what they are talking about. So where is a guy or gal to turn?

One place you can usually get some decent advice on your love relationship is from your friends who are dating or who have been involved in a long-term relationship. Another good place to get some solid advice would be from…oh perish the thought!…your parents. They have lived a lot longer than you have (no matter if you’re 14 or 40) Wisely choosing where to get your advice is one of the major keys to succeeding in your relationships.

All of us have had problems with a relationship at some time or another in our lives. Sometimes I feel like we just keep making the same mistakes over and over again. I don’t know why this has to be. Perhaps some unresolved issue within ourselves. I know I had a few and until I was able to get past them, it seemed like could never get and keep the kind of relationship I really wanted.

I went through a stretch for many years that I call my ‘desert’ period. Boy, it seemed like no matter what I did, I just couldn’t keep it together. Things would be going along great with a relationship and then the boom would fall. It was awful! I thought I would never find that love connection I was looking for. I finally did, but until I got the right love relationship advice, life was pretty rough.

I was going through yet another breakup when I reconnected with a friend. He helped me discover the missing pieces that ultimately helped me rebuild and rekindle my broken relationship. I owe him more than I can ever repay for helping me to learn to do things differently. If you need some really great love relationship advice that actually works, you should check out the videos on his website here. He may be a little unorthodox for some, but his methods for saving a relationship really do work!

Sunday, December 7, 2008

5 Ways To Get Back At Your Ex

Relationships are fragile and you have to do some work to keep them built up and maintained. Unfortunately, relationships do break up and that can be a stressful and frustrating time. Many times when a relationship breaks up the first thought you have is that you want to get back at your ex. It’s a normal reaction, but do you really want to do that?

Following these 5 tips to get back at your ex will do two things:
a. It will put your ex in an interesting predicament.
b. It may also repair the relationship because your ex will see how important you really are/were to them.

These five tips can help you get back at your ex, but they can also be a great method to getting your ex back. So, what do you need to do?

1. Be strong. Coming across as too needy doesn’t help you. You need to stop clinging, begging, and acting desperate. Nobody likes a whiny little crybaby, so show the strong side of yourself even if you don’t feel very strong right after the breakup. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them. If they think you’ve moved on, they may figure out that they really haven’t.

2. Minimize communication. It may seem wrong to reduce the communication between you and your ex, especially if you really want to repair the relationship. Don’t be misled, this is one of the most important steps in getting back at your ex or getting your ex back. So take a break from your ex, give them time to reflect for a while with little to no contact. It just might give them a chance to recall the good things about the relationship you two had.

3. Be flexible. Don’t force issues with your ex, such as demanding they ‘come get their junk’ by a certain date, move out immediately, or whatever. Freak them out by being flexible, listening to them, and sympathizing with their issues. They will be shocked that you are being so kind and mature. It may even make them want to rebuild the lines of communication that were lacking before the breakup.

4. Get out of the house! Call your friends and get out and socialize! You don’t have to date, or even pay much attention to the opposite sex, just get out and spend some time ‘hanging out’. This will be good for you, but it will also make your ex realize what they lost!

5. Be yourself. There was a good reason you and your ex had a relationship, so just be yourself and let your ex remember why they were attracted to you in the first place.

Whether you are looking to get back at your ex or to get your ex back, these five tips will have you feeling better about things in a very short amount of time.

Thursday, December 4, 2008

How Can I Get Back Together With My Ex Boyfriend?

If you are wonderinghow can I get back together with my ex boyfriend the first thing to keep in mind is that sacrifice and compromise are two key elements in any relationship. If both of you aren’t willing to give a little, odds are the relationship isn’t going to go very far.

How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend? This will not be the easiest thing you’ve ever done, but with a few simple pointers you may find that the relationship can be saved.

When a relationship fails it is a sure sign that something, somewhere went wrong. Getting to the core of what actually happened is the key to figuring out how to fix things. Two of the more common reasons a guy will break things off are:

The relationship was getting stale because you weren’t putting enough of yourself into it.
The relationship was too close because you were putting too much of yourself into it.

Either way, it leads to the end of the relationship. So if you are in the position of wondering “how can I get back together with my ex boyfriend”, the first thing to do would be to determine which of the two root causes above led to the death of the relationship. This will help you decide what steps to take next.

The end of a relationship is hard, but it is even harder to look at yourself to see what you either did, or didn’t do, that drove him away. This can be a harsh reality check, but if you want to get him back, you have to be very honest with yourself. You can’t change what was wrong if you don’t know what it was, can you?

Think of all the possible reasons he could have wanted out. Which of these were actually your fault? Which did you have no control over? The issues you had no control over, you still don’t, so rule those out and concentrate on the things you can change. If the biggest problem with the relationship is something you have control over and can change, odds are good that the two of you can work things out as long as you really are willing to make the compromises necessary.

Start focusing on the things you can change and then you will know the answer to the question, “how can I get back together with my ex boyfriend?”